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‘Round Midnight 4

It’s becoming tradition. Every year since 2007, on New Year’s Day (or thereabouts) I’ve written a little post talking about all of the things that happened in the past year. (See previous years in review: 2006, 2007, 2008.)

Looking back on them is always an interesting experience. It’s kind of amazing to see how far I’ve come in the past four years, and fun to imagine what will change in the next year (hopefully good things!).

Anyway, without further babbling from me, here’s 2009 in review!

January – the month of friendships – Began to expand my social circle when Derek started working swing shift; found out about a few friends’ pregnancies; got U-Verse – actual television for the first time in like two years!; met up with my parents in Vegas
February – the month of reflection – Celebrated one year with Derek; got really into blogging pretty regularly; began thinking about the past and starting to grow from it.
March – the month of growing pains – Found out I was going to be an aunt; watched my younger sister start planning her wedding; started getting sick more often.
April – the month of missing you – Lost my great-grandmother; turned 23; continued to keep getting sick.
May – the month of admitting the problem – Realized my sicknesses were being caused mostly by psychological issues; began seeing a psychiatrist; pretty much hit rock bottom as far as being depressed and hating life. Not a good month.
June – the month of facing the problem – Started Lexapro for anxiety and depression; began biweekly therapy sessions with the psychiatrist.
July – the month of improving & looking ahead – Started feeling better for the first time in ages; began looking forward to the family vacation; Derek turned 29.
August – the month of family – Went to Florida with Derek and my family; met my little cousin, Alexis, for the first time; began to realize how much I love my grandmother and hope to be like her when I’m older; began to face some of the issues related to feeling out of place among my siblings.
September – the month of learning to live again – Started talk therapy with the psychiatrist; explored how I was living my life and what was important to me and Derek in our living situation; found out my ex was moving to China and tried to work out how I felt about it; met up with my parents and grandparents in Vegas.
October – the month of kiddies – especially RORY! – My niece, Lorelai, was born the day before my brother (her daddy) turned 28; decided to start volunteering at Kidspace; visited my friends in New York
November – the month of thankfulness – Withdrew from the online world a little to focus myself on life; spent a wonderful Thanksgiving with Derek and his family
December – the month of “home is where the heart is” – Stayed a week with my brother in Indiana; met Rory, finally, and fell in love – she’s the best niece ever!; visited my parents and grandparents; then came home to my Derek again… and my home.

Overall, this year was a lot less eventful than last year – that is for sure – but it was still a really important year. I dealt with a lot of things this year, a lot of very difficult things, even. But I’m already feeling so much stronger than this time last year, and I know I can only get stronger from here.

I’m looking forward to starting 2010. Farewell, 2009.

O Christmas Tree

Forgive me, this is mostly going to be a photo post. :) I borrowed a tripod from Derek and took some gorgeous photos of our tree, including some macros/close-ups (well I used a macro lens anyway) of some of my favorite ornaments.

We love the Christmas tree this year. We had a few little mishaps – the trunk was too short for our tree stand, and then the bowl they put on the tree at the lot started leaking, so we had to make a quick fix – but it turned out really gorgeous. Derek loves it too. :) And it smells so good! Growing up, my parents didn’t really ever buy real Christmas trees, we always put up a fake one (until I moved out, then they started getting real ones, what the heck, mom?!). There’s really no comparison, though… The real one smells so good, and it looks so much better!

The lights are LED lights and kind of have a blue tint to them. On long exposures, with a white balance set to cut out the orange light coming in from the courtyard lamps, they look super blue. I kind of like it!

See? Orange lights! It looks like the courtyard is on fire or something.

This little guy was made by my good friend Christin last year. I like to think he’s protecting the tree. :)

I’m so happy to have my own little ornament collection. They’re mostly blue, green and silver – and last year I found these adorable snowmen ornaments at Target, which fit perfectly!

When we get flat cards or photos I like to put them on the tree. This one my grandma had printed and sent to us, it’s a great picture of us. :)

Here’s my fishie! I’m a huge marine biology nerd — Chrissy even made me a clownfish hat, I’ll have to get photos soon! — and so when I saw this little fishie I had to have him. My ex’s mom bought him for me at Saks Fifth Avenue in New York a few years ago. He’s still one of my favorites. :)

My mom gave me this Angel of Learning for my tree. I love how the light was shining on her in this photo.

And this one was from my friend Kelly. Along with our friend Sarah, we share a very special almost sisterly bond — that is best served with a nice pinot noir!

You may be wondering, with my professed Buddhist tendencies and lack of a strong religious sense, why do I have a Christmas tree? Well, in the next few days I have a big entry planned, in which I’ll talk all about what the holiday season means to me! Be on the lookout.

Until then, take care, stay warm and enjoy the holidays!

Life, the universe and everything?

Why, 42, of course.

In my previous entry, I asked my beloved readers to ask me questions about anything, anything at all, for me to answer in an effort to break out of my writer’s block.

And of course, there were some lovely questions posed. I’m excited to answer them! So… let’s get started, shall we?

Erica was apparently in a very curious mood; she asked me a bunch of different questions!
First, she asked, “What food would you be happy to never eat again?”
And the answer is pickles (as in pickled cucumbers). I hate pickles – pretty much any kind, bread & butter, dill, whatever. I don’t even know the different types of pickles, I hate them so much. Ick. Blech. Yuck.

Next, she asks, “What does your bedroom look like?”
For this one, I got out my trusty camera and took some photos. Click on any of these little thumbnails to see a bigger version (some even have notes!):

She also wanted to know “What is in your purse?”
And I took another photo (again, click to see larger and lots of notes!):

And finally, “Do you have any guilty pleasure bands or TV shows?”
I don’t really have a lot of guilty pleasure music, but I do find myself listening to a bit of Outkast… specifically “Roses,” “The Way You Move” and “Hey Ya!” Aren’t those everyone’s guilty pleasures, though? I dare you to just try to listen to those songs and not dance your ass off.
As far as TV, there are a few more that I’m not exactly proud to admit I love. Wife Swap, Supernanny, 16 and Pregnant, Maury, Bridezillas… Oh, and Derek and I got totally hooked on Momma’s Boys back when it was on. Omfg, that show was so dramatastic. I loved it.

Then Sarah from OSN came along and wanted to know how I got into my current lifestyle. “What’s attracted you to your current lifestyle? When with your ex you seemed more… stifled? Now you seem more free, live more of a natural and organic life, etc.”
Well, she kind of hit it right on the nose with the mention of my ex. I’m not saying he was abusive or oppressive or anything, but I did find myself stifling some of my wants and needs a bit and sacrificing them for his. It’s not something I’m proud of myself for doing, but it wasn’t the first time it had happened. I’d been in a pattern where all I wanted to do was please whoever showed any interest in me, because for so long I didn’t really feel attractive or deserving, and wanted to obsessively hold on to whatever I could get. So somehow I convinced myself that meant giving up what was important to me for what was important to the other person.
I don’t really regret much of my life, but if I were to think of anything as regretful, I think my behavior and choices during that time period comes pretty close.

When I started my life with Derek, though, things changed quite a bit. I’m able to do a lot of things that I wanted to do but never did for fear of rocking the boat too much. Thanks to him being there for me and being supportive of me, as well as some much-needed therapy, I’m starting to gain a lot more confidence. This is a good thing.

Honestly, it also helps that Derek and I just see eye-to-eye on more issues, like money issues, eating organic/all-natural, health care, etc. We just have more compatible viewpoints and lifestyles. This is a very good thing.

Caity wrote: “I know you love your job, but if you had to switch professions suddenly, what other interesting careers might you pursue?”
If I could, I would open a tea store/tea house. Tea is one of my huge passions, and I love sharing it with people – I would love to have a place where people could come, hang out, try some amazing tea and relax. I’d also love to be able to travel to lots of other places to source the teas themselves – whether it’s just over to New Jersey to meet up with the people at Adagio or across the world to see tea harvested in a tea field in India. And of course, I’d try to rope in Derek as well – something tells me he wouldn’t fight it too much. ;)

Another Sarah, this one of sarahchristine.org, decided she would go against the grain and ask questions on Facebook. :P

QUESTION: Why are your titties so kicking rad?
I could say something about genetics or something, but the truth is my genetics decided that my kicking rad titties would be perfect… except for their size. Good things come in small packages? Uh, sure. Anyway, they were kicking rad, but not very noticeable. Luckily, though, Victoria’s Secret loves me, and made their Pink push-up bras just for me. Together, the push-upness and the kicking radness combine to make epic cleavage. Nature + nurture, bb.

QUESTION: Why is the sky blue?
Rayleigh scattering.

QUESTION: What is the average speed velocity of a swallow?
Laden or unladen? European or African? Foraging or traveling? :P

QUESTION: The best and worst movies you’ve ever seen?
Let’s narrow this down to the last year or two… I’ve seen a lot of movies. Best: Synecdoche, NY; 500 Days of Summer; Away We Go; Happy-Go-Lucky; Ponyo; Slumdog Millionaire. Worst/Most Overrated: Dark Knight; Funny People…

QUESTION: The best and worst books you’ve ever read.
Bah, another hard one… I know it’s a cop out, but let’s just leave it at this: I hate anything by James Joyce and the Great Gatsby. I love memoirs, some especially good ones have been Jesus Land by Julia Scheeres, Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls and Wild Swans by Jung Chang. I also loved Kate Chopin’s The Awakening. And I think Eat, Pray, Love is completely overrated and that the author is a self-absorbed twat. :D